Pot calling the Kettle black?

Click the image to cast your vote: anyone with a Facebook account can participate.

So I thought it would be fun to post a poll on facebook to see what others thought about online flirting and snitching (for lack of a better word).

Though more people voted that they wanted to be told it was the people who voted "No" who said the most in the comments.

Most people seemed to believe there was an allowable amount of "innocent" flirting. Multiple people said they expected their spouse to tell them about their flirting. A few didn't want someone else to deliver the news.

Here ye! Here ye! If my man is flirting with you like that guy was flirting with me (see my flirting post) I want somebody to tell me.

Don't get me wrong. I'm not worried about my husband flirting like that. He's a good man and we've got a good thing going. Most of all we understand each other very well and we've talked about our boundaries and limits.

Having said this, I brought up flirting today and he informed me that I am a flirt too. I think I fall into the category of innocent flirt. He seems to think it's innocent because he hasn't complained.
I'm the social/friendly type.
My friend Marko says I should stop smiling at people so much. I suppose its one of those habits I can't seem to break. But the truth is, I smile and nod at men and women alike. It's a friendly "Hello how are you today" smile. It's just that on the street, men take that to mean I want them to say something obnoxious to me at that moment - and I don't like that.

So how do I justify my "flirty" behavior? Oh yes I'm on the defensive here. Because I don't want men to misunderstand my reasons for striking up a conversation, I'm very careful to make sure it's clear that I am happily married. I never suggest or joke that I'm interested in anything inappropriate. I smile, listen to what they say ( maybe even ask questions) and laugh when something's funny. I suppose you could say I give good attention. But there is a line. I'd describe my behavior as friendly and warm.

Flirty is what I did (& still do) to solicit my husbands attention:

• Tell him how good he looks


• Describing why I like him


• Touching his leg, neck, lips or hands


• "Accidentally" rubbing up against him


• Blowing kisses


• Whispering in his ear


• Teasing him with a kiss or a look or a flash of skin

I know how to flirt. I don't do these things with anyone besides my husband.

My biggest fault in this area is that I am friendly when I don't have to be.