Top prize go to: (Yes. I'm giving away multiple top prizes! It's my blog I can do that.)
- The Notebook - movie
- Bridges of Madison County - book
- Moulin Rouge - movie
- Something Borrowed - book ( I hope I enjoy the movie)
- Different World "Save The Best for Last" 1992 episodes (both of them but especially the end of Part 2)
Clarification: No nuptials were broken during the construction of my personal love story.
Before I share one of my favorite love letters from my husband (pre-dating) I want to give a little background.
In 1992, I spent many months in a miserable and lonely relationship. Me and "this guy" were Dating Other People but he was doing all the dating. When I finally decided to try this Dating Other People thing, I discovered my soulmate, David,"this guy's" good friend.
<< Enter forbidden love>>
An intense yet brief summer-love style romance commenced (think Bridges of Madison County). I didn't know he was my soulmate at the time, I just knew that I liked everything about him and longed to be in his presence. For all I knew, the quick-developing passion I felt was infatuation , a crush or maybe even lust. Pursuing this further would create a really ugly situation. I'm not fluent on the rules of Dating Other People, but I'm sure that falling for someone else (especially your guy's friend) was a serious violation. So we backed off.
David and I settled for friendship and suppressed any feelings in excess of that. For the next year I found myself back where I started, in a miserable and lonely relationship with "that guy". He and David had become best friends.
In 1994 I decided that I could do bad all by myself. It was time to end this madness. David and I had maintained a close friendship since 1992 so of course I shared with him that I was leaving my current "relationship" in search of something fulfilling. I guess you could say I put David on notice. I told him everything I desired in a relationship. After 2 years of not having it, I knew exactly what I needed. So in an email, I asked him to honestly consider whether he'd be willing to do that for and with me. Not only was there the dating-his-best-friend's ex issue to consider, David was involved with someone else at the time and had lots of female attention in general. I couldn't assume what his response would be, but I trusted him to be honest with me.
Below is David's response:
~Summer 1994~
From the very beginning of our romantic relationship, my intent was to develop something that would be long-lasting and meaningful. What we have right now fits that criteria, but I want and need more. I am thinking about commitment just as you are. I too believe in taking all the proper steps before making that decision. Twanda, if the opportunity presents itself, I will willingly give you what you need- commitment.
After all we've been through, I would be foolish to want anything less. Besides, what I want is you. Despite the situation or circumstances, the past year has made that obvious to me. I dated other women, but I have not found anyone who makes me feel the way you have. I'm sure you remember our long talks about me and my love life- why I hadn't found anyone special to be with? The reason why is because I couldn't find anyone that I wanted more than you.
Yesterday. I don't regret kissing you. It felt like I had waited a lifetime for that moment to come again. I don't know how long I will be able to stand stealing only brief moments of surreal time together. I already want more. I look forward to seeing you in the time we do have together ALONE.
There is a whole lot more I would like to say. I am having trouble writing today, but I may get a chance to continue my thoughts later. I spend most of my time thinking about this situation and how to handle things. Even if I don't have the opportunity to be with you in the future, what then? At some point things have to be resolved.
I hope I can see you later this evening.
Dave
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♡❤♡Two years later we were married and that was nearly 15 years ago.♡❤♡
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Twanda. Thank you for sharing such a personal aspect of your life. It really just gives "face" to what I already see with the two of you. Congrats on Fifteen years of "Black love."
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